Time and time again the amazing women I work with tell me “I want it to be perfect.” “If it were just perfect.” “It is almost perfect.” These are educated, driven, successful women and everytime they say this I remind them that perfection isn’t an end goal, nor is it ever going to be the result. They are astonished and sometimes even resentful when I laugh at the thought of perfection until I share what I am about to share with you today.
[adj., n. pur-fikt; v. per-fekt]
- conforming absolutely to the description or definition of anideal type
- excellent or complete beyond practical or theoreticalimprovement:
- exactly fitting the need in a certain situation or for a certainpurpose:
- entirely without any flaws, defects, or shortcomings
- accurate, exact, or correct in every detail
When I look at the definition of perfect some words truly rub me the wrong way. Things like Conforming, beyond practical or theoretical improvement, without flaws or shortcomings.
The pressure we are put under by society, employers, and ourselves to be perfect in our personal lives and business is in one word:
With so many images and sounds of perfection surrounding us in everything we do, from the music on the radio that has been recorded, rerecorded, auto tuned, session played, mixed and re-mixed to the photography we see in magazines that have been edited, color corrected, airbrushed, and other fine means of “photoshopping”, perfection is constantly pushing and shoving us in every direction….if we let it.
Any efforts to achieve perfection or to deliver the perfect “thing”, build the perfect business or always make the right decisions is bound to leave you in the dumps when you discover that mistakes can and are made and nothing, absolutely nothing on this planet is perfect.
People say “Well you can STRIVE for perfection and then you will get as close as you can!” In a word. NO. Why strive for something that is impossible? That doesn’t imply that you should ever settle for mediocrity because that is the opposite end of the spectrum. There are other words that can be used to help you elevate your performance, your consciousness, your business or any aspect of your life but PERFECT should not be one of them. Words like
Integrity Happiness Delight Excellence Value Inspiration Relevant
Memorable Significant Greatness
Never ever perfect nor perfection.
There is something endearing, believable and genuine about the person takes complete ownership of their mistakes and the solutions to problems and uses imperfection as an opportunity for learning and growth. Those mea culpa days, and yes there will be many of them will force us to regroup, rethink, re engineer, think out of the box and innovate and improve!
The fact is, no one and nothing is perfect and THAT is what makes us interesting and THAT is what gives us a constant opportunity to live, experience, do and learn in a constant ebb and flow. It makes things exciting and interesting because life and business can’t be fixed in post production. This is the LIVE and MAIN event and is designed to be enjoyed to the fullest 24/7 365. Fixing it in post, is just too late!
Next time you are striving for perfection whether you be strategic planning, goal setting or just musing, consider using the following SMART principles:
Specific Measurable Attainable Realistic and Timely
It will push you out of your comfort zone, make you think about your objectives and allow you to measure your success so that you can continue to grow.
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Anastasia Valentine is an award-winning product strategist, CEO of a fabulous marketing and PR agency, speaker, published author and mother. She has over 20 years achieving amazing results in bringing ideas and products to market in the high-tech, music and retail industries.
She works directly with amazing solopreneurs, entrepreneurs, and small, medium and enterprise-class companies across the globe. Her approach combines her knowledge, skills and experience fueled with her drive, a little tenacity and a lot of moxie to launch and build businesses! Visit Anastasia at www.anastasia-valentine.com